Forget erotic texts. Take it to the next level with a phone sex hotline. There’s nothing like hearing your phone partner getting more turned on as you speak.
However, before you call up and ask, “What are you wearing?” there’s some phone sex etiquette you need to brush-up on. In this article, you’ll find advice from real phone sex operators to help you know what to do (and what not to do) before picking up the phone.
What is a phone sex hotline?
Phone sex hotlines might seem like a thing of the past, especially when we have access to live sex cams, OnlyFans, and pornography. But these hotlines are still going and are more popular than ever.
A phone sex hotline is a number you can call to talk dirty with an operator. Typically, conversations cover your fantasies, how you’re touching yourself, and other sexual topics. The aim for most clients is to achieve sexual gratification.
However, it’s important to remember not all calls are the same. Some callers may spend most of the time discussing their day. Others get straight into the dirty talk. It’s up to you.
Are phone sex operators sex workers?
Yes, phone sex operators are sex workers. It’s a common misconception that sex worker means escort or porn star. Anyone who works in the adult industry is a sex worker.
Benefits of calling a phone sex hotline
So, what makes talking to someone without seeing them so popular? We’ve gathered some of the most popular aspects of phone sex to show you erotic phone calls are in vogue:
- It feels more intimate
- The anonymity/lack of visuals can be extra sexy
- You can explore fantasies in a judgement-free space
- You can access connection without being physically intimate
- There’s something exciting about the novelty of phone sex
What you should know before calling a phone sex hotline
Before you discuss your fantasies, make sure you know the dos and don’ts of calling a phone sex hotline. See tips and advice from real-life phone sex operators below.
1. Be polite
Firstly, you should always be polite when you call. Just because you’re paying doesn’t mean you have the right to verbally abuse the operator.
Being rude or threatening is a sure way to get hung up on and even blocked from the service.
2. Don’t hang up after a few minutes
Nothing is stopping you from making a quick call. However, phone sex operators dislike short callers the most.
Most phone sex operators build long-term relationships with their clients. Rather than spending a few minutes on the line, these calls tend to last from 30 minutes to an hour. This gives you more time to get to know each other and to discuss the caller’s desires.
Plus, it’s important to note that many phone sex operators are paid per phone time. So constant 5-minute callers mean they’re working but not earning.
3. You can become a regular
As stated above, becoming a phone operator’s regular client is possible. This is always a surprise for some, as most assume the experience is completely anonymous.
In reality, you can build up a solid relationship and really get to know each other’s fantasies. This can be satisfying for both parties, especially when you know how to turn the other on. Happy chatting!
4. Operators know when you’re not sober
There’s no rule against calling a phone sex hotline while intoxicated. However, calling when you’re loaded is not the best idea.
Callers are more likely to hurl abuse at operators when drunk or high. So, understandably, operators are more careful if they can tell you’re not sober. And they usually can hear it in your voice.
5. Having non-sexual conversations is normal
Phone sex hotlines are all about providing company, and this company doesn’t have to be sexual.
Many operators report a large chunk of their calls being non-sexual. Rather than talking about deep desires and kinks, callers want to discuss their day and get to know someone without the pressure of being face-to-face.
6. Check the rates before you call
The cost of calling a phone sex hotline greatly depends on which service you call. Some are affordable, and others are expensive.
To save yourself from big charges, check out the hourly or per-minute rates before you ring.
Realising you’ve been slapped with a hefty bill is never a pleasant experience. If this happens to you, don’t call the line again and abuse the operator. Not only will this cost you more, but it will also get your number blacklisted.
Instead, contact the overall company and query your charges. The individual callers rarely control the rates.
7. No personal details
It’s common for callers and operators to get to know each other well.
However, don’t expect an operator to hand out their personal information. Names, addresses, ages, and other personal details are usually hidden or fake to keep the caller safe. This is standard practice for sex workers, and you shouldn’t be offended if they don’t reveal this info.
8. Boundaries
Boundaries are important, even in phone sex.
If there are any topics you don’t want to talk about, let your provider know early on in the call. Likewise, if the operator tells you what they don’t discuss, respect their wishes and pivot to other topics.
Most operators are extremely open-minded and happy to discuss most fantasies. In the rare case you’re not a match, simply discuss other fantasies or swap to a provider who works in your niche.
9. Don’t forget toys
Most phone sex operators have a stash of sex toys. So, if you want them to play with a vibrator, tell them! Plenty of clients get turned on by hearing the noise of sex toys, and you shouldn’t feel ashamed to ask if they have any.
The takeaway
Calling a phone sex hotline is an excellent way to spend a night at home. Hopefully, this guide has prepared you for hours of titillating conversation. Always be friendly, and if you’re uncomfortable, you can simply state your boundaries or hang up. Enjoy!
Read more about sex work for clients on the Vivastreet blog here.
