Sex & Relationships

Femdom: A guide to female dominance

Female domination is a term used to describe a sexual relationship or practice in which a woman takes control of her partner. 

This can involve physical domination, such as slapping or spanking, or psychological domination, such as verbal humiliation or mind games. 

Some femdom relationships also involve roleplaying and dress-up, with the woman taking on the dominant role and wearing sexy, powerful-looking clothes.

But there is so much more to know about femdom.

Read on to learn more.

What is femdom?

Femdom, also known as female domination or female supremacy, is a set of sexual practices in which the dominant partner is female. Some common and exciting positions include face-sitting, the bridge, lap dance, and reverse missionary.

Other than the sexual part, it can also refer to relationships, which can take many different forms.

What does femdom mean?

The term “femdom” is short for “female domination”. It refers to a relationship dynamic in which the woman is the dominant partner, and the man is the submissive partner

This type of relationship can range from a casual sexual encounter to a long-term committed relationship

Is femdom legal?

Yes, femdom is legal, and there are no laws against it. That being said, the sexual activities and overall relationship must be completely consensual. On top of that, hiring a professional to do a femdom roleplay or a dominatrix is legal in the United Kingdom.

How popular is femdom?

While it wasn’t well-known a decade ago, femdom has become increasingly popular over the past few years. 

It is nowadays more accepted in society, and many men like to play the submissive role in the bedroom. So much so that Men’s Health reported a study from PornHub stating that femdom was the 10th most searched category on the streaming platform.

But that’s not it. Femdom in relationships has also become more common, and an increasing number of men give up their decision-making skills to their partners.

What is a femdom relationship?

In a femdom relationship, also called a female-led relationship, or FLR, the woman is the dominant one. She makes all the decisions, and she is in charge. 

This type of relationship can work well for couples who want to make their sex life more exciting or to exchange the traditional man/woman roles. 

The woman will have more authority than the man in the relationship, and it’s a great way to explore each other more, as well as open your mind.

Also, it doesn’t have to be only for boyfriend/girlfriend relationships – it works for married couples too. 

Why do women like femdom?

For many women, the appeal of femdom lies in the power dynamic. In a society that is still largely geared towards male domination, it provides a way for women to exert their own power and control.

It is also a more modern, original way to push the relationship’s limits and discover a new personality that was still unknown to both partners.

In the bedroom, this can manifest itself as anything from light bondage and spanking to more extreme activities like cuckolding or foot worship. 

For some women, the appeal of femdom also comes from the taboo nature of these activities. Doing something that is seen as “wrong” or “deviant” can be incredibly erotic.

Why do men like femdom?

There are a few different reasons why men might be attracted to femdom. For some, it is simply a matter of aesthetics – they find the sight of a beautiful woman in control to be incredibly erotic. 

Others may enjoy the feeling of surrendering to a woman’s will and giving up control. Also, the appeal of femdom lies in the taboo nature of these activities. Submitting to a woman’s authority can be seen as an act of defiance against traditional gender roles.

Lastly, for many men, submitting to a dominant woman is a way of releasing all the pent-up tension and stress that comes with living in a society that constantly tells them they need to be in control.

How to femdom

As the world becomes more and more accepting of different lifestyles, more people are exploring their kinks and fetishes

Female domination is becoming increasingly popular as a result. According to Pornhub’s 2019 yearly review, their femdom category got 445% more popular compared to 2018.

First and foremost, you will want to talk to your partner and see what they think about this new experience. Being on the same page and understanding each other is crucial.

Also, knowing what both you and your partner want is an important part of femdom. Set your boundaries and define if you only want the sexual part or the woman to be the dominant part of the relationship.

Femdom in bed doesn’t need to be about chains and handcuffs. You can start by flirting and using some humiliating words such as:

  • “I’m better than you to be in charge.”
  • “Come on, you can fu@k me better than that.”
  • “I wish there was another man, you’re not good enough.”

Female domination is about personal preferences and staying within your set limits. Don’t humiliate or be humiliated more than what you initially agreed on, and progress step by step.

Whether you’re looking to add a little spice to your sex life, or you want to explore your dominant side, it can be a fun and exciting way to improve your relationship.

Tips to femdom

Some people enjoy femdom as a way to explore their submissive side, while others find it empowering to be the one in charge. No matter what your reasons for exploring femdom are, there are plenty of ways to get started.

If you’re new to it, the first thing you’ll need to do is figure out what turns you on. Do you like the idea of being dominated? 

Or maybe you prefer being told humiliating words? Once you know what gets you going, you can start looking for related activities and fantasies. 

If you’re not sure where to start, here are a few ideas:

  • Try bondage or restraints. This can be a great way to experiment with power dynamics and give your partner control over your pleasure
  • Fantasise about being humiliated or degraded. Whether it’s being called names, being told to do something obscene, or being laughed at, humiliation can be a powerful turn-on for some people
  • Experiment with different forms of dominance and submission. Maybe you want to be the slave and your partner the boss?

If you keep these tips in mind, you’re sure to have a steamy femdom experience that will leave both you and your partner begging for more.

Tips to gentle femdom

When it comes to femdom, many people automatically think of whips and chains. But there’s a lot more to it than that.

Femdom can be gentle. You can start slowly with words and roles of power to check your limits and see what is pleasurable or not.

For instance, the female partner dressing as a mum or as a teacher and acting like she has the power is a great way to start out with no humiliation. Other roleplay scenarios can also spice up your sex life, such as owner and pet or boss and employee.

Apart from that, while you don’t need to go into bondage, you can use soft, furry handcuffs to make things kinkier and more exciting.

Lastly, using sex toys is another way to start your femdom journey. It will allow the female partner to show the man that she can have fun without him. Hence, triggering the man’s submission. 

What happens during a femdom session?

When it comes to female domination in bed, it typically involves the dominant woman ordering her submissive partner to perform various tasks or acting as a dominatrix. 

The submissive person may have to do things such as licking feet, being spat on, and being slapped. They may also be made to wear special clothing, such as a maid’s outfit or a collar and leash. 

The dominant woman may also engage in sexual activities with her submissive partner, such as spanking, whipping, face-sitting, or strap-on play

Femdom can be an extremely erotic and exciting experience for both partners involved.

When it comes to escorts, a typical femdom session would ideally see the male client find erotic activities he wants, such as pet play or a medical roleplay.

The takeaway

So, there you have it – a complete guide to femdom. As we’ve seen, when it comes to sexual relationships, there is no one right way to do things. 

Some couples prefer a more traditional dynamic, with the man taking the lead and the woman following his lead.

However, other couples may prefer an equal relationship or even a female-led relationship, and there are many different reasons why couples may choose to explore femdom. 

Are you interested in exploring femdom? Then start talking to your partner and setting new boundaries to take your relationship to the next level.

Alternatively, you can hire the services of a professional in your area on Vivastreet.

Viva Team

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