What is a MILF? The popularity of MILFs in porn and pop culture

Although it’s been around for a few years now, the acronym ‘MILF’ stands for ‘Mother I’d Like to F**K’. Initially intended as a (backhanded) compliment, it refers to an attractive older woman who may or may not have kids.

What makes a woman a MILF?

Being a MILF doesn’t necessarily mean having children, and the ‘M’ in MILF could stand for ‘Mature’ instead. In fact, the latter meaning would probably be a more accurate description of what a MILF is because this preference is all about age. 

So what makes a woman a MILF?

1. Age

A MILF, as we have said before, is a woman who is older, but that is something of a relative term because it tends to be younger men who use the term.  

According to Dictionary.com the term MILF is often used by teenage boys about their friends’ attractive mothers or just about women in general who are considered middle age.

2. Attractiveness

This, along with her age, is what makes a woman a MILF. Attractive and sexy are two qualities that are commonly associated with being a MILF, along with the general air of having taken care of herself.

3. Experience

One of the key attributes of a MILF is that she is sexually experienced. This gives the impression of knowing what she wants in bed, and how to get it, along with the perceived promise of being a skilled lover. However, this doesn’t mean that she exudes sexuality; MILFs can be oblivious to their attractiveness and not be aware that they are considered as such.

 

 

Where does the term come from?

The term MILF was popularised by the 1999 movie, American Pie. While this is undoubtedly when it made its way into the mainstream, it seems its origins actually go further back. 

In the 1960s, the film ‘The Graduate’ saw a young man falling for the much older wife of his father’s friend, bringing the idea of young men and older women into the public domain. Then, in the early 90s, the term MILF was coined by an internet group that was discussing Playboy. 

However, it was American Pie which really catapulted the idea into the minds of men everywhere, and that’s when the concept really took root. 

Since then, there have been endless examples in popular culture, from Fergie’s ‘M.I.L.F $’ video, in which a milkman delivers to a neighbourhood full of sexy mamas, to Fountains of Wayne’s ‘Stacy’s Mom’, about a youngster who fancies his girlfriend’s very attractive mother instead of his girlfriend. 

What’s the attraction?

According to Pornhub’s 2021 review, ‘MILF’ was the 4th most searched term, while in 2018 it was number 3, proving that its popularity hasn’t really waned over the years. 

In fact, one of the richest porn stars in the world – Lisa Ann – made her millions by portraying MILF roles in some of her 289 movies.

In looking at the reasons why people are attracted to MILFs, we should start with the psychology of it, although in the case of Sigmund Freud, we’re not sure he was altogether accurate. 

According to the Grandfather of Psychology, it comes down to what is known as the Oedipus Complex, otherwise known as – and we’re paraphrasing here – a male’s unconscious desire to be the centre of his mother’s world or the only object of her love. 

Some would say that the attraction to MILFs is an extension of that but focuses on someone else’s mother, instead. 

However, it is more likely to be the case that men (or women) are attracted to these older women because they know that the years of experience a MILF has are one of the most powerful things about her. 

Life experience gives a woman (or a man) the air of being knowledgeable about many things, and that is a huge aphrodisiac.

As women get older, they don’t have the time or the patience for playing games, which makes them attractive to men who dislike the angst and drama that can come from seeing younger women. 

MILFs have busy lives; should they have kids, if their children are young then they will have their hands full with them, and if their kids are older, they probably have a career, friends to socialise with, and workouts to schedule.

Is there a male equivalent?

So, if a MILF is a ‘Mother I’d Like to F**k’, then the male equivalent is a DILF, or a ‘Dad I’d Like to F**k’.  However, there are a few fundamental differences between the two. 

While being a mother is a part of the attraction with women, the evidence of that motherhood is invisible – thankfully. 

When it comes to DILFs, the way they are with their children is a huge part of the appeal. A man who is affectionate with his kids is a massive aphrodisiac, showing two sides of the same coin – the strong hunter/gatherer, and the tender parent. 

What’s the difference between a MILF and a yummy mummy?

You might think that a yummy mummy and a MILF are the same thing, but the big difference between the two is age. While a MILF is (usually) above 40 with older children, a yummy mummy is young, with babies, toddlers, or children at primary school. 

Young, attractive, and well-groomed, the yummy mummy is perceived to spend her days doing yoga, having mani-pedis, and spending her free time with her fellow yummy mummies while enjoying a privileged existence courtesy of her wealthier husband’s salary.

What’s the difference between a MILF and a cougar?

The lines between a cougar and a MILF are less defined, not least because they both pertain to attractive, older women. The key difference, though, is that a MILF doesn’t go looking for the attention of younger men, while a cougar actively seeks them out. 

A MILF could well be married, often happily, and just happens to be the object of a younger man’s desires, whereas a cougar wants a relationship – albeit it often just a sexual one – with younger men. Cougars are also obvious about their intent and their sexual prowess and exude confidence. 

 

 

 

Where can I find a MILF?

If you’re looking to meet up with a MILF, there are a few options you can explore:

• Wine bars and cocktail bars. Great places for meeting single ladies, wine bars and cocktail bars make it a lot easier to strike up a conversation without the thumping bass of a loud dancefloor
• Ladies’ nights. Hugely popular with single ladies, these events attract women of all ages. Alcohol is readily available and is usually cheaper for women, so the atmosphere will be relaxed and conducive to conversation and flirtation
• Online dating sites. You can specify your preferred age range which saves a lot of time sifting through unsuitable matches, and most women will allude to the fact that they are interested in younger men in their profiles. Some sites even allow you to block messages from anyone outside your preferred age range, so if you can message her, she’s probably very interested in younger men

Is a MILF right for me?

Only you will know whether a MILF is right for you and will depend on your own personal preferences, but if you generally find older women attractive (or men in the case of DILFs) it could be exactly what you are looking for. 

Seeing an older woman doesn’t guarantee that it will turn into a relationship. She will most likely have come out of a long-term one of her own and might not be interested in embarking on anything significant, so if a casual fling isn’t your thing, a MILF might not be, either. 

If, however, you’re simply not interested in dating a MILF but still like the idea of seeing one, you can find exactly who you are looking for on Vivastreet. 

Our search facility will allow you to find a MILF escort in your area – or any area of your choice – and you will be able to see what the escorts offer so you can choose the perfect match for your needs. 

The perfect way to have the MILF experience without dating, an escort could well be the ideal solution, without any of the complications.