Adding the Girlfriend Experience (GFE) to your service list is an exciting step. But how do you perfect this in-demand sex work request?
In this blog, you’ll find some tips from real escorts to help you level up your GFE services. From eye contact to active listening, we’ve collected 10 tips to help you wow your clients. Scroll down to find out more.
What is the GFE?
GFE stands for the Girlfriend Experience. It’s a type of escorting service that mimics a romantic relationship but still includes payment and boundaries.
Typically, GFE services are more emotional and passionate. Alongside sex, they cover cuddles, pillow talk, and sometimes dates.
Read our full guide on what to expect with the Girlfriend Experience here.
Tips all GFE providers should know
1. Always make sure you’re on the same page
GFE services have always been one of the most popular escort packages. But sometimes, clients interpret the service differently.
Overall, the GFE is all about providing the experience as if you’re a girlfriend. However, some clients are cheeky and demand unprotected sex and creampies. Their argument for this is that ‘real girlfriends would do unprotected sex.’
Don’t let them push your boundaries. While you are offering relationship-inspired services, you should still stick to a safe sex protocol. This means using condoms and other forms of protection.
You should also be clear about what’s included in the package, down to kissing, cuddling, and pillow talk. Communication is crucial.
2. Make the most of eye contact
Many clients are attracted to the passionate and emotional aspects of the GFE. You can create a more vulnerable atmosphere by maintaining eye contact while having sex. This is extra powerful while in missionary and can create a super intimate moment.
Don’t shy away from meeting each other’s gaze!
3. Practise your kissing
You don’t have to add kissing to your GFE services. But if you are comfortable kissing your clients, research different styles, speeds, and pressures to wow them with your skills.
Make-out sessions are another main draw to the GFE for clients. If you hone your skills, you can get clients extra hot under the collar before you take any clothes off. Plus, it’s a skill you can transfer into your own relationships.
4. Don’t shy away from conversations
When clients book a GFE service, they likely want more conversation and flirting than others. So, don’t give one-word answers. Even if you’re not particularly interested in the client, ask them questions about their day, work, and general life. Play the part and laugh at their jokes.
It sounds corny, but going the extra mile to provide girlfriend-like interactions outside of the sex will elevate the experience for them.
5. Dress for the fantasy
‘Girlfriend’ conjures different images for everyone. One client might imagine you wearing an oversized shirt and panties, while another might fantasise about a more glamorous lingerie look.
Get to know your client’s desires before you meet. This will ensure that you meet their expectations and that they will be more likely to become a long-term client.
Unsure how to introduce this topic to a conversation? After their booking, send a few flirty messages or ask, “Would you rather?” This can also help break the ice before you meet.
6. Take breaks
That’s right. Tip no.6 is to take frequent breaks.
Avoid overbooking GFE clients. While you should already be taking time to rest, GFE bookings can be extra exhausting as you’ll often take on extra emotional labour.
Even if you prefer these types of emotional bookings, it’s best to be mindful of how you’re feeling after. If you realise you’re feeling grouchier than usual, consider stepping back for a few days to approach the next session with more energy.
7. Utilise the shower
Taking a shower or bathroom with someone is very intimate, even if you’re not having sex.
You can elevate your GFE services by suggesting you take a romantic shower together. This may lead to sex, or it may not. Either way, it’s something different and a chance to offer physical closeness – a key component clients are usually searching for.
8. Keep the vibes going over text
Booking clients is part of running a business. But don’t drop the flirty tone as soon as the client leaves. Be cute and suggestive over text, like you would with a real partner. This will hold their attention and make them want to re-book.
Of course, you shouldn’t drop your prices or let clients push your scheduling boundaries. Just don’t drop the girlfriend act, as you want to keep the fantasy alive.
9. Use active listening
Plenty of clients who book the GFE want to connect with someone on a deeper level, which will likely mean they talk (or complain) about their lives.
The last thing they want to see is that you’re not interested. Brush up on your active listening skills. These include nodding while they speak, responding to what’s being said, and remembering what they say.
Remembering the conversation is especially important if you see the client regularly. Nothing will put them off faster than you forgetting details about their life.
10. Massages
Massages are another intimate technique you can use to impress your client. While standard escorting sessions can include erotic massages, they should be slower and more sensual in a GFE.
So, invest in some opulent massage oils, light a few candles, and set the mood with some relaxing music. Going all-out will always make clients smile.
The takeaway
Whether you’ve just started providing the GFE or want to improve your current services, we hope this list has given you some new ideas. In the end, just have fun with it! You should enjoy it as much as the client.
Did we miss anything? Let us know if we’ve overlooked your go-to techniques.
Remember, with any service, never do anything that makes you uncomfortable and block anyone who pushes your boundaries. Don’t let someone try to push for unprotected sex as part of the GFE. This isn’t a requirement.
