National Threesome Day: Threesome With a Friend or a Stranger?

March 3rd is National Threesome Day, and that means there’s a fair amount of couples around looking to expand their sexual experiences and try bringing a third person into the bedroom.

But while this idea may sound spicy and fun, a lot of couples have a tough time actually finding a third partner for a threesome. After all, threesomes can get complicated, so you need to choose the right person for the experience.

So, should you be inviting a friend or a stranger over when having your first threesome? Well, there’s an argument for both sides, which we’ll dive into in this article.

Note: Whoever you decide to enjoy this fun experience with, your safety should always come first!

Keep reading to learn the benefits and drawbacks of inviting a friend or stranger for a threesome and how you and your partner can decide the best option.

The argument for having a threesome with a friend

There are many obvious benefits to choosing a friend in addition to a threesome with your partner. This is because you, your partner, and that friend already have some sort of relationship and bond. That way, you can shake off some of the awkwardness that might come with your first threesome experience.

Like it or not, there will be nerves during your first threesome. But if you have a friend with you, it’s easier to relax and laugh, without the pressure of having to make things “extra sexy”.

Couples who decide to have a threesome with their friend enjoy the familiarity and the lighter vibe when they bring over a friend. That said, it can be tough to find friends who will be willing to have a threesome with you and your partner, let alone one who won’t develop any feelings after.

While having a threesome with your partner and a friend might sound like a hot fantasy, it comes with some drawbacks, which we’ll dive into in the next section.

Why you might not want to have a threesome with a friend

The first challenge in having a threesome with a friend is having a friend who will be into that sort of thing. Even if you and your partner get a “vibe” from a friend that suggests they’ll be into a threesome, you’ll never know until you ask. Everyone has different sexual desires and preferences, so there will be some people who may have a certain reaction to a threesome proposal that may damage your friendship.

Here are a few more reasons you may want to reconsider having a threesome with a friend:

Awkwardness

Even if you and your partner are successful in bringing in a friend to the bedroom, there will be some awkwardness after the threesome. While it’s easier to laugh off the awkwardness before and during the threesome, there will definitely be a change in your dynamic as friends after the threesome.

This is why some couples find it awkward to hang out with their friend casually again after a threesome and vice versa. Again, this is why open communication is necessary before and after the threesome to help temper expectations and ensure everyone is heard.

You can’t predict what will happen after

There is no way you can predict that your friend won’t develop feelings for you or your partner after your threesome. In fact, you or your partner may even develop feelings for your friend.

Even if you discuss rules and boundaries thoroughly beforehand, there’s no predicting how your feelings toward that friend and that friend’s feelings toward you will change after the experience.

Or, someone may develop feelings of jealousy after the threesome, which is far from ideal. This is why it’s critical to think everything through before proposing a threesome with a friend.

The argument for having a threesome with a stranger

So, why would you want to have a threesome with a stranger?

Well, there are quite a few benefits to finding a stranger interested in a threesome and bringing them into the bedroom. If you and your partner are interested in having a threesome with a stranger, here are a few reasons why that might be a good idea:

“No strings attached”

The first reason couples might want to consider a threesome with a stranger is because there are no strings attached. With strangers, there are no prior relationships to consider, and it’s much easier to cut ties after the threesome if that’s what you and your partner are looking for.

There is much less of a risk of a ruined or tarnished friendship when having a threesome with a stranger, which is a big reason why many couples choose to have threesomes with strangers instead of friends.

Easier to set boundaries

When looking for strangers who might be interested in a threesome, you can set boundaries from the very start. For example, you and your partner may be looking to have a threesome just once and not have a longstanding relationship with the person after.

When you have a threesome with a stranger, you can talk about these boundaries from the very beginning of the meetup, which can make things easier for you and your partner. You can even talk to people who offer adult services for your threesome to set even firmer boundaries.

Note: Always keep your safety in mind, especially when bringing a “stranger” into the bedroom. Tell someone what you’re doing or where you’re going and keep your live location on with a close friend. Instead of going straight to business, you might want to have a few meet-ups first, whether you or they are the third.

Why you might not want a threesome with a stranger

Many people simply aren’t comfortable bringing a stranger into the bedroom, whether alone or with a partner, for a threesome. If that’s the case, then having a threesome with a stranger may not be the most comfortable experience for you and your partner.

Again, this is why open communication is essential when you and your partner decide to explore having a threesome.

How to determine the best person for a threesome

If you ask couples who’ve had threesomes whether it’s better to have it with a friend or a stranger, you’ll get a mixed bag of answers. Everyone has unique preferences, so while some couples had a better experience with their friend, others had a better experience with a stranger.

The best approach for couples trying a threesome for the first time is to talk to each other about threesomes until you’re sick of discussing what you want or don’t want. That way, it will be much easier to figure out what type of experience will give you the most pleasure!