Menstrual Hygiene Day is here, and today, we’re turning our focus to that special time of the month. Love it or hate it, millions of people around the world menstruate, and it’s a normal bodily function we must normalise.
- What is Menstrual Hygiene Day?
- Escorting and menstruation: How to navigate period sex with a client
- Practical ways to have period sex with a client
- The takeaway
But today, we’re putting our own Vivastreet spin on the day. We’re focusing on how escorts and sex workers can navigate clients who request to have period sex. While rare, it happens, and it’s good to be prepared.
What is Menstrual Hygiene Day?
Before we jump into our guide, we’ll quickly give Menstrual Hygiene Day some context.
Menstrual Hygiene Day (or MH Day) is celebrated on May 28th and was created to address the lack of education and access to period products. Menstruation is a natural part of life, and yet there are still taboos and stigmas surrounding it.
The MH Day team strives to unite organisations, businesses, and individuals to break the silence and engage decision-makers.
With ten years of experience, MH Day is larger than ever. However, it’s still working towards its number one goal: building a world where no one is held back because of menstruation by 2023.
Understand more about the cause via the Menstrual Hygiene Day website here.
Escorting and menstruation: How to navigate period sex with a client
We’ve already covered period sex and given a few beginner tips. So, today, we’re flipping the script and looking at how you can deal with period sex from a professional lens.
Compared to other services, it’s uncommon for clients to request period sex, especially if it’s not something you actively offer. But as a sex work professional, you’re probably used to weird and wonderful requests. If anything, it’s an opportunity to try something new.
Here’s what you need to know before you go for it:
Are you okay with period sex?
Receiving a new booking or client request is always exciting. But take a moment before hastily accepting or rejecting it. Really consider whether this is something you want to do.
It’s all good and well to accept the booking because you want to secure the money, but when it comes down to it, you must be confident and ready to go. If not, your client may leave a bad review and affect your reputation.
Likewise, don’t hastily delete the message. If you take a moment to research period sex, you could find it’s something you’re into. You may even be able to spin it into a niche offering.
Understanding your own feelings towards period sex is critical here. It’s okay if you’re not into it, and it’s cool if you are. Don’t force yourself to do it or let anyone push your boundaries.
How to deal with requests for period sex
So, you’ve received a message from a client asking for period sex.
If you’re not interested, a polite “Hello, thank you for getting in touch! I currently don’t offer this service, but I do provide XYZ” will show the punter you’re not interested but do offer other services.
You’re also allowed to ghost the message, which will send a clear message. However, it might lead the client to message again. A quick and clear no is the best way to set a boundary.
If a punter starts to bug you, block them and report their details to the NUM database to protect other escorts from dealing with them.
Most punters will be friendly and accept rejection gracefully. But what if you want to do it?
After telling the punter yes, you need to set some firm boundaries. This may involve the length of the session, what sexual acts are allowed, and the hygiene rules (e.g., blankets, specific lingerie, and condoms). Safe sex is just as crucial while menstruating.
Can you charge extra for period sex?
Some experienced sex workers take advantage of period kinks and charge extra fees for period sex. Since few punters ask for this service and even fewer providers, you can take advantage of the demand and charge more.
Strike a balance between sky-high rates and your normal fee, though. As shooting too high might put the client off.
Practical ways to have period sex with a client
If you are interested in pursuing period sex with a client, you need to get clear on the practical side. Here’s how you can ensure your period sex session is satisfying and smooth.
1. Conduct the session in the shower
Let’s face it. Period sex comes with some extra clear-up. If you’re not ready to risk your bed or sacrifice a towel, you might want to swap to shower sex.
Of course, shower sex requires new positions and might not be ideal if you’re meeting at a location without a shower. However, providing the fantasy and maintaining cleanliness is a great middle ground.
Run this by your client before they book the session. You don’t want them to arrive hoping for a period sex session on the bed when you’re only okay with doing it in the shower.
2. Don’t wear your favourite lingerie
Expanding on the mess factor, don’t wear your favourite lingerie for period sex. While you can remove period stains from clothing, it’s not always easy, and you risk permanent stains.
Swap to darker or older lingerie for these sessions. You can also keep a tampon in or a pad on for as long as possible before penetration to avoid any extra leakage.
3. Consider the session on your lighter days
Lastly, you may want to schedule the session on one of your lighter days. This will depend on the overall heaviness of your period. Those with extremely heavy flows may wish to skip the peak of their period as this will create more mess and may be more uncomfortable.
Unsure when your heaviest days are? A period tracking app can help you track your menses with scientific accuracy. However, for realistic predictions, you need to use the app for a few months.
The takeaway
Periods are a taboo for everyone, including sex workers. Hopefully, this article has helped you understand whether period sex could be part of your professional life and, if so, how you can tackle it.
Keep learning about sex work and escorting today via the Vivastreet blog.
