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What’s katoptronophilia and why you should try mirror sex

Katoptronophilia is sexual arousal from having sex in front of a mirror or from the act of seeing oneself during sex. It’s a paraphilia, which is defined as “an atypical sexual interest characterised by intense and persistent sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviours that are generally not pleasurable and may be considered abnormal”.

While some people might consider mirror sex weird or even vain, it can be a really hot and exciting experience for both partners, even when playing solo. Let’s go through everything you should know about katoptronophilia and why you should try it.

What is mirror sex?

Mirror sex is a sexual act in which a person alone or a couple faces each other in a mirror while having sex. It can also be performed with the hands, mouth, other parts of the body, and any position from doggy style to 69 to masturbation. Of course, it can also be done with sex toys.

Benefits of mirror sex

Though it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, there are actually quite a few benefits to having sex in front of a mirror. If you’re bored with your usual sex routine, watching yourself in the mirror can help spice things up. In fact, it can be a great way to add some visual stimulation to your sex life.

Also, it is a great way to build body confidence. If you’re insecure about your body, seeing yourself during sex can help you appreciate your sexuality and learn to love your body the way it is.

But there’s more; let’s elaborate on the benefits below.

It helps you connect with your partner on a deeper level

Sex is always better when you feel connected to your partner, both physically and emotionally. And what better way to connect with your partner than by looking into their eyes while you’re both getting lost in pleasure?

For starters, it is one of the best ways to get in touch with your own body and desires. Seeing yourself in the mirror during sex can help you to learn what turns you on and what doesn’t, which can help you achieve future orgasms solo or with a partner.

You can see every little detail

When you’re having sex in front of a mirror, you get an up-close-and-personal view of every little detail – the way your bodies move together, the expressions on each other’s faces, and the way you and your partner have an orgasm.

This can actually be hot for both partners because it allows you to see everything that’s happening in real time. Of course, it could help you identify your partner’s likes and eventually make sex even more exciting.

It can spice things up in the bedroom

If your sex life has become a little monotonous, then mirror sex is a great way to make things more entertaining. Trying new things in the bedroom is always a good idea because it keeps the fire alive for both partners. Plus, it gives you something new to look forward to next time you feel frisky.

You may feel more confident naked

Most people feel at least somewhat self-conscious about their bodies when they’re naked, but mirror sex can help you get over that insecurity. Seeing yourself naked with your partner can help you appreciate your body for what it is and feel more confident about it. After all, if your partner loves your body, then there’s nothing to be insecure about.

It can help you connect with yourself sexually

It isn’t just about connecting with your partner – it’s also about connecting with yourself sexually. Seeing yourself during sex can help you understand your own body and figure out what turns you on (which is definitely something we could all stand to do). In addition, it can also help increase your sexual satisfaction because you’ll know exactly what feels good and what doesn’t.

 

Why is it such a turn on?

There’s something about seeing yourself in the mirror during sex that is incredibly hot. Maybe it’s the fact that you can see every detail of your body and your partner’s body as you move together. Or that could be how mirrors allow you to get a new perspective on an old favourite position.

It may as well simply be how mirror sex feels – even more intimate than regular sex. Whatever the reason, there’s no denying that it is a major turn on for many couples. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

In fact, we think more couples should give mirror sex a try. Who knows, you might just find it your new favourite way to get busy.

How to try mirror sex

Trying mirror sex is the ultimate solution to spice up your bedroom routine. And if you’ve never tried it before, here are a few tips on how to get started:

Find the perfect position

Standing up is usually the easiest way to start, but you can also try it lying or sitting down. No matter your position, make sure you and your partner are comfortable and can see each other clearly in the mirror.

Get in the mood

As with any sexual activity, setting the mood is key to enjoying mirror sex. Dim the lights, put on some soothing music, and light candles to create an intimate ambience.

Be creative

Use your imagination to devise new and exciting ways to please your partner. Try different positions, experiment with different techniques, and have fun.

Be safe

Mirror sex can be a bit dangerous if you’re not careful, so make sure you have a firm grip on yourselves and the furniture before getting too crazy. Also, be sure to clean the mirror afterwards, so you don’t have a surprise later on.

With these tips in mind, you will have a fun and safe experience exploring the exciting world of mirror sex.

How to try mirror sex if you’re not confident with your body

When it comes to sex, confidence is key. But what if you’re not confident with your body? Is there any way to still enjoy the sexual activity? Enters mirror sex.

Mirror sex is a great way to help you feel more confident and comfortable with your body. It involves you and your partner getting naked in front of a mirror and exploring each other’s bodies. This can be done through touching, kissing, or simply looking at each other. The idea is to not only get comfortable with your own nudity but also to learn to appreciate your partner’s body as well.

If you’re not sure how to get started, try taking some time to explore your own body in the mirror first. Touch yourself in different ways, experiment with different angles, and really get to know your own body.

Once you feel more comfortable, invite your partner to join you. Then take things at the pace that feels comfortable for both of you.

Remember, there are no rules here – if your partner loves your body, there’s no reason for you not to.

 

Best positions for mirror sex

There are a few different positions that can help you get the most out of the experience, no matter if this is your first or tenth time.

For starters, doggy style is always a good option. Not only does it give you a great view of your own body, but it also allows your partner to watch as well.

Alternatively, oral sex, a blowjob (or cunnilingus), is also an excellent option for something a little more intimate. You can either face each other or turn away from each other, depending on what you’re both comfortable with. How exciting does that sound?

Whatever position you choose, getting frisky in front of a mirror is always a hot and unique experience. And if you want to add an extra element of excitement, then having sex standing up is also an option. Just make sure that you’re careful with the furniture and use lube.

Will you give it a go?

Those are the reasons why we think everyone should try mirror sex at least once. Will it be weird or awkward at first? Sure, but that’s part of the fun. So find a big mirror, clear off some space in front of it, and get ready to have some seriously hot, reflected fun.

Viva Team

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