How to make time for sex in 2025

Though sex pops up in our social media feeds, on TV, and sometimes in conversations with friends, we’re having less of it than ever before.

So, are you satisfied with your sex life?

If you are, you might not need the information in this blog. However, if you secretly wish for better or more sex, you’ve landed in the right place.

Scroll down to understand why we’re having less sex and how you can make more time for passionate romps in 2025.

Who is having less sex?

According to a past National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, younger Americans aren’t having as much sex as they were in the 2000s.

And this dry spell isn’t only observed across the pond.

The UK’s National Surveys of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (Natsal) has been tracking public sexual experiences for over three decades.

Natsal researchers have observed a decline in the average number of sexual encounters over time: from five times a month in 1991 to four in 2001 and three in 2012.

And the trend didn’t stop in 2024. Our sexual habits are slowing down as time moves on.

Why are we having less sex?

There are plenty of fingers to point when it comes to why we’re having less sex. From technology to post-pandemic mindsets, the reasons ultimately depend on the demographic, if not the individual person.

However, here’s a quick overview of the common factors that lead to less sex:

• Busier schedules – Today, we work longer hours and have increased daily demands that lead to less time to get it on.
• Technology and social media – We’re spending more time looking at screens than ever before. This reduces in-person interaction and leads to fewer sexual encounters.
• Cultural shifts – There are also wider cultural trends which can impact sex, such as the ability to explore identities like asexuality.
• Internet pornography – Technology offers new ways to experience sexual pleasure through pornography or live streams. For some, this replaces physical intimacy.
• Mental health impacts – As sex decreases, anxiety and depression increase. These mental health problems can make intimacy harder.
• Decline in relationships – While today it’s easier than ever to meet a partner on an app, the rate of romantic relationships is declining.

How to make time for more sex

You’re not alone if you’re unsatisfied with your sex life.

Despite having less sex than ever, Brits are still interested in sex and want to have more sex and better orgasms.

We’ve collected a few tips to improve your sex life. These are separated into singles and couples’ tips, as some strategies won’t work if you’re looking for a partner or already in a committed relationship.

Tips for singles

If you’re single and want to have more sex, here are some tips and ideas to consider for 2025:

1. Redownload the apps

Dating apps are like Marmite, you love them or you hate them.

If you’re open to dating apps, this is your sign to redownload them and give them another shot. There are plenty of options these days beyond Tinder, where you can find likeminded lovers open to commitment, no strings attached sex, and everything in between.

Bumble, Hinge, and Feeld are current favourites.

2. Study your sexuality

Do you know what you actually want?

When you’re single, it often feels like you’re on the hunt for a partner. But don’t match with the first person you find.

Take time to get to know yourself and your sexual preferences. This solo exploration can help you learn your turn-ons and empower you to get dirty.

3. Schedule time for sex

If you’re wrapped up in a busy schedule, dating and sex might be the last things on your mind.

However, here’s the harsh truth: if you want it, you need to make time for it.

This could be just one evening a week. It’s up to you!

4. Consider your reliance on technology

When you’re thinking about how much sex you have, it might be time to take an honest look at your relationship with pornography and other types of technology.

If you’re spending more time looking at a screen than you’re comfortable with, make small changes to decrease your usage and spend more time practising hobbies and socialising.

5. Book an escort

Lastly, if you want to have more sex but don’t want to go through the steps of meeting new people, you might want to consider escort services.

This won’t work for everyone. However, it’s a logical alternative for those who are extremely busy.

Tips for couples

1. Schedule sex

Sure, scheduling sex doesn’t sound as sexy as a spur-of-the-moment romp. But it’s a reality for thousands of couples, especially when life gets busy!

2. Talk about your needs

If you’ve been secretly wishing you had more sex, it’s time to tell your partner.

The best relationships are built on honesty and clear communication. And also, when you let your partner know how you feel, you can take logical steps to improve the situation.

3. Spend quality time together

From date nights to binge-watching your favourite TV show, spending quality time together fosters intimacy and leads to better sex.

There’s a reason your love drops off a little when you don’t spend evenings and weekends together!

4. Bring your fantasies to life

It’s natural to go through dry spells. However, indulging in a new fantasy can bring back the spark and kick-start your shared sex drive.

This could be a new roleplay scene, a new sex toy, or even some dirty talk. Whatever floats your boat!

5. Start flirting again

Foreplay starts way before the bedroom, especially in a long-term relationship.

We don’t all have the same desire styles, and for some people it’s hard to get ‘turned on’ on the spot.

Flirt with your partner throughout the day to plant the early seeds of intimacy. This could be through kisses, cuddles, or compliments.

When you spend more time flirting with each other, your sex life won’t only be hotter, but it’ll happen more often.

 

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