Erotic couples massage should already be on your radar, but what is it and what happens during the massage?
There are various types of massage therapies that focus on different parts of the body with the aim to relax, revive and restore health and wellbeing.
But what happens in an erotic massage? When it comes to erotic massage, the use of sensuous touch and massage techniques are used on another person’s body to awaken their sexual energies and target erogenous zones.
- Is an erotic massage legal?
- Types of erotic massage
- How to give an erotic massage
- How to pick the right erotic massage
- Where can I get an erotic massage?
George Downing, the author of The Massage Book, makes a distinction between ordinary massage and erotic massage:
“One is sensual, the other sexual. One leaves the body feeling calm, the other leaves it feeling aroused.”
Erotic massage heals and awakens your mind and body, and can enhance the recipient’s sexual arousal and even achieve an orgasm.
During this sensual massage, there is usually one giver, typically a romantic partner or a masseuse (if at a massage parlour), and one recipient.
If an erotic massage sounds appealing to you, here are nine types of erotic massage that will have you on cloud nine and strengthen the intimate bond between you and your partner.
Is an erotic massage legal?
The short answer is yes. In the UK, there is no law that states erotic massage services are illegal.
Although erotic massages are not directly a sex service, it’s also legal to provide sexual services in exchange for money.
However, there are some laws around sex work you should be aware of.
For example, any premises, such as massage parlours, may be classified as a brothel if they are used by more than one person, whether it’s simultaneously or one at a time.
We recommend reading information on the legalities of sex work.
How to give an erotic massage
While there are various types of erotic massage (see below), there are some general elements that can be included to bring a seductive nature to it.
If it’s your first time giving your partner an erotic massage, you may also want to start off with something simple to build up your confidence and skills, especially before experimenting with more advanced erotic massage techniques.
Get your equipment ready
As with any type of massage, you need to be prepared with the right equipment. The basic essentials include:
- Massage oils
- Give your partner a proper experience and use actual massage oil. Not only do they add to the fun, but they have many benefits for the skin such as inflammatory properties or reducing pain and tension
- If you’re planning to give your partner a happy ending, opt in for a massage oil that won’t disturb their pH balance (if they are a vulva-owner) – stick with coconut oil or wash your hands before getting “down and dirty”
- Tip: Before purchasing your massage oil, make sure to check your partner’s allergies
- A massage bed or anywhere you or your partner feel comfortable laying down, such as a bed or sofa
- A massage cover to lay on, although an old bed sheet or towels can be used as an alternative
- Clean towels
- Massage bolsters or normal pillows or cushions
Depending on what you both like or intend to do during the massage, you may want to include some additional things.
Set the mood
If you’re doing the erotic couples massage at home, you want to mimic the feeling of a massage parlour as much as possible. Think about the dim lighting and aromatic candles as well as the warmth of the room and soothing music that will help your partner relax. You could even turn on a diffuser with aromatic oils to heighten their senses and give them an erotic massage they’ll never forget.
Before you get started, check your partner’s boundaries. Are there any areas they don’t want you to touch? Ask them to avoid an awkward moment later.
Throw on something sexy
Let your imagination run wild and go all out with your “masseuse” outfit. Wearing sexy attire, such as lingerie or a satin robe, is what will differentiate you from a normal masseuse and blow your partner’s mind. Especially when they feel the satin fabric graze their skin as you lean over them.
Start with basic massage techniques
Applying basic massage techniques is a great warm-up before delving into all the sexy stuff. It helps your partner unwind and is the start of awakening their sexuality. Typically, this will involve stroking, kneading and gentle slapping with the hands.
If you’re an amateur, research basic massage techniques online and create a routine of your own. The more practice you get, the better you’ll be at massaging. Just make sure you don’t press too hard so you don’t cause your partner pain (unless that’s what they’re into).
Don’t forget to massage every inch of their body, even the most forgotten parts such as their ears or back of the knees. And last but not least, they’ll be utterly grateful if you focus on their shoulders which are known to hold the most tension. Just watch the stress melt away as you massage every knot into nothingness.
Target erogenous zones
Once you’ve got into the flow of massaging, it’s time to take it up a notch. Start targeting more erogenous zones, such as your partner’s feet, buttocks, or breasts. This will certainly turn up the heat and heighten their arousal.
Make the erotic massage as sensual as possible – you don’t need to just use your hands.
Get freaky
Spice things up by adding sex toys, such as blindfolds and vibrators, to the mix. Whatever usually turns your partner on, whether it be French kissing or a bit of foreplay, incorporate it into the massage to make it more thrilling. You could even try a lickable massage oil.
Switch roles
If you want to make it extra pleasurable for both of you, consider switching roles so you can both enjoy the sensations of erotic massage. Both of you deserve to relieve the tension.
Give them a happy ending
Erotic massages usually have a “happy ending”, which is a term that refers to ejaculation. By the time you’ve finished sensually rubbing your partner or each other down, you’re likely to feel fully aroused and ready for sexual intercourse.
Tip: Remember to take things slow and acknowledge how your partner responds. Ask them if they like what you’re doing and if the pressure is right for them.
Note: Before you begin an erotic massage, it may be ideal for the recipient to shower beforehand. This is not only for hygiene purposes but to help them relax and allow their body to benefit from soaking up the oils.
Types of erotic massage
Just like standard massage therapies, such as sports massage and deep tissue massage, there are various types of sexual massages too. Below are some of the most popular:
1. Lingam massage
If you’re a man who enjoys masturbation or being caressed below the belt, then a lingam massage is your calling.
Lingam is the Sanskrit word for ‘penis’ and is often translated as the “Wand of Light”, believed to channel creative energy and pleasure.
What is a lingam massage?
Lingam massage is a deeply erotic style of tantric massage (see below) that focuses specifically on the male genitalia.
Unlike your average handjob, men can delight in having their penis, testicles, perineum and prostate massaged.
This penis-honouring activity is about feeling and surrendering yourself to sensual pleasure and discovering new erogenous zones, which can bring about multiple orgasms during the process. You can even give them a tit wank while you’re at it.
It can also help with sexual dysfunctions, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
What happens in a lingam massage?
During this penis massage, the massager oils the penis and testicles with massage oil.
They start to rub the thighs to help you feel relaxed and activate your sexual senses before moving on to the genitals.
Then they gently massage the genitals, using fingernails or fondling them in the palm of their hands.
You can experience light-to-hard grips and various stroke sequences and techniques, like a twisting motion, and a mixture of speed, methods, pressure and rhythm, when your partner moves onto the shaft and down the penis.
2. Yoni massage
While lingam massage is male-centric, a yoni massage is designed for female pleasure and stimulation.
In Sanskrit, yoni is defined as the ‘vagina’ and is interpreted as a sacred space.
What is a yoni massage?
A yoni massage involves massaging the vulva and vagina to help women connect, heal and develop their sexuality as well as free physical and mental tensions.
Although orgasms are not the ultimate goal of a yoni massage, the receiving partner can climax during the process.
However, like a lingam massage, a yoni massage between partners generally aims for a “happy ending”, which is stimulation to reach climax.
What happens in a yoni massage?
During a yoni massage, the person massaging rubs down the recipient’s body using essential oils and can sometimes focus on other erogenous zones, such as the breasts.
Once the recipient is warmed up, their hip flexors are spread to start stimulating the ‘yoni’ area, particularly the vulva and labia.
The recipient is encouraged to participate in some breathing exercises.
In some yoni massages, the massager can insert fingers inside the female to analyse or discover tight spots and help release any tension in the woman’s vagina.
3. Tantric massage
Often referred to as the “science of ecstasy”, a tantric massage harnesses the sexual energies in the body through massage.
What is a tantric massage?
It involves meditation, genital stimulation and breathing techniques to relax the mind and body, create connection, achieve enlightenment, and use sexual energies for healing.
This arousing massage focuses on the giver providing pleasure to the receiver, so they can surrender themselves to pure pleasure and therapeutic healing.
Like yoga and zen, the aim is for the receiver to be fully present in the moment.
What happens in a tantric massage?
Although tantric massage can be done in various ways, generally the giver uses touch and their entire body to massage their partner into a state of relaxation and sensuality.
It’s a gentle massage that should work all areas of the body from nipples to abdomen, feet and thighs before moving on to the genitals.
Tantric massage is quite similar to yoni and lingam massage as it involves stimulation of the penis or vagina in the same way.
However, its main focus is not on ejaculation or orgasm but to awaken sensuality, sensitivity and senses.
Discover more information about tantric massage here.
4. Nuru massage
The art of Nuru massage originated in ancient Kawasaki, Japan and is highly sexual in nature and typically performed nude.
What is a Nuru massage?
A Nuru massage is a body-to-body erotic massage using a smooth and ultra-slippery gel made out of natural Nori seaweed.
The term ‘Nuru’ also derives from the Japanese word “slippery”, which pretty much sums up the type of sensation you’ll feel during the massage.
What happens in a Nuru massage?
During this slippery massage, both the massager and the receiver can be completely naked and covered in Nuru massage gel.
The massager uses their body to massage the receiver’s body all over, by sliding their body up and down their body, specifically targeting sensitive areas to stimulate sexual moods and heightening erogenous zones.
Although sex can be involved to achieve a “happy ending”, the recipient can experience orgasms with this erotic rubdown alone.
Read our full guide on Nuru massage here.
5. Soapy massage
Originating from Thailand, this passionate massage aims to relieve tension in the body, rejuvenate the skin, achieve a state of weightlessness through intense relaxation, and create emotional and physical harmony to give a sense of renewal.
What is a soapy massage?
A soapy massage is as fun as it sounds – it’s a wet and slippery massage in the bathtub or shower with nourishing soaps (or sometimes Himalayan salt pebbles) that exfoliate and cleanse the body
When done between partners, this massage can lead to sex. Just be mindful that soaps and body washes contain mineral oils that can damage condoms.
So, if condoms are your preferred type of contraception, be sure to use products without mineral oils.
What happens in a soapy massage?
Usually, two people or more are naked in a bathtub of warm water. The giver lathers soap in their hand and rubs it all over the other person’s body, cleaning and massaging them with soap instead of gel or oil.
The massager is also covered in soap and can use their own body as well as their hands to massage the receiver by sliding back and forth and creating an intensely intimate connection.
After this wet massage, sometimes the massage continues on a bed for further soapy massaging and usually leads to a “happy ending”.
6. Prostate massage
As well as for medical purposes, such as helping to ease prostate inflammation, you can have a prostate massage for sexual stimulation.
What is a prostate massage?
A perfect combination with lingam massage, a prostate massage involves the stimulation of the male prostate gland.
It particularly helps with achieving arousal, an erection, relaxing the rectum for anal sex, and even helps treat issues like erectile dysfunction.
What happens in a prostate massage?
Before the massage begins, just like before anal sex, the recipient will ensure they have a clean anus beforehand.
As they lay on their front, the massager will apply lube around the anus. Then, they will insert their finger into the rectum and up towards the root of the penis to masturbate and stimulate the prostate gland.
Tip: Indulging in erotic foreplay to achieve a state of arousal can help to prepare the prostate gland for stimulation.
7. Foot fetish massage
A relaxing foot fetish massage can be just what you need to unwind after a long day.
What is a foot fetish massage?
It involves massaging the feet in a sensual way that gets the recipient sexually aroused. Not only does it release the tension on the feet and stress overall, but a foot fetish massage can be just as pleasurable for the recipient as it is for the massager, especially if they have a foot fetish.
This foot massage can be spiced up with toe-sucking, the act of kissing and licking the feet and lead up to a “happy ending”.
Partners can also use their feet to stimulate each other’s genitals.
What happens in a foot fetish massage?
The massager can use a towel or a pillow to prop up their partner’s feet. Then they use a flannel and bowl with warm/hot water to wash down their feet while the heat from the water helps relax the muscles and joints.
They rub massage oils all over the feet, from the toes down the sole and onto the heels using rubbing, patting and gripping movements. They can use their thumbs and knuckles to swirl and knead into the feet for added pressure if desired.
For added appeal and a ticklish sensation, the massager can part the toes with their fingers and massage in between them.
Once the foot massage has warmed up, the massager can begin kissing, sucking and licking the feet in sweeping movements with different degrees of pressure.
Note: If there is mouth-to-foot activity, it’s important to ensure that the oil used is edible. You can use lube as an alternative.
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8. BDSM massage
A BDSM massage, also referred to as ‘dark tantra’ massage is for those that want to revel in the naughty side.
What is a BDSM massage?
It’s an erotic massage that involves BDSM sex toys and activities, such as blindfolds and cuffs and spanking and bondage.
The purpose of this massage is to relax your partner while exploring your fetishes and inciting your imagination.
It’s a fusion between relaxation and extreme eroticism while eliminating all the tense knots in your body.
What happens in a BDSM massage?
It will start with a normal massage before gradually adding any BDSM to the equation.
Based on the consensual chosen sex toys, the massager will use these toys on the recipient. For example, as the massage heats up, the massager could put a blindfold on the recipient to heighten their senses and build curiosity.
They can also use bondage rope to tie up their partner while massaging their genitals so the restrained participant can find pleasure in the thought of being unable to resist.
Note: There are safety precautions you must take when carrying out BDSM, such as a ‘safe word’, to communicate your physical or emotional state during the process.
9. Erotic couples massage
If you feel comfortable inviting others to your sensual relationship, you and your partner can indulge in an erotic couples massage.
This is to recharge and reunite the sexual energy between you and your partner.
What is an erotic couples massage?
Typically, there will be two masseuses massaging both of you using tantric massage techniques to trigger your sensual energies.
After an erotic couples massage, you’re likely to leave with a sexual appetite, encouraging intimacy for when you both get home.
Alternatively, if you don’t want other people involved, you could perform a mutual massage on one another, where you can rub each other down in turns or simultaneously.
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What happens in an erotic couples massage?
During an erotic couples massage, you and your partner will receive a massage simultaneously next to one another from two masseuses.
As mentioned before, they will use some sensual and tantric massage techniques to trigger arousal.
If you want to, you can opt for one masseuse, so you can watch each other enjoy sexual pleasure as well as the sensations of the massage. That way you can learn new ways of pleasuring each other and can feel turned on by how your partner responds.
How to pick the right erotic massage
Whether you generally enjoy massages or desire a new erotic experience, our list of sexual rub-downs can provide a wonderful sense of relaxation, have your mind and body in a state of improved health, or build a stronger intimate bond with your partner.
In an interview with Cosmopolitan, sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight explains why partners should indulge in erotic massages:
“The majority of our everyday communication is non-verbal and body language plays a huge part in how we communicate and understand other people,” Annabelle says. “It should, therefore, make sense that massage, one of the most intimate kinds of touch, is a good way of communicating with your lover. Each caress, stroke and rub can be used to say anything from ‘I adore your body’ to ‘I hope you had a good day at work.”
If you’re unsure of what erotic massage to go for, we recommend picking one according to what style and methods appeal to you most. There is also nothing stopping you from trying them all at different times.
Erotic couples massage can be an essential part of your self-care routine and a way for you and your partner to spice up your sex life and build a stronger relationship.
Where can I get an erotic couples massage?
There are many masseuses and escorts that offer erotic massages in the UK.
You can find an erotic massage in London and other areas in the UK by visiting adult sites, like Vivastreet.
How to find an erotic massage near you on Vivastreet:
- Visit our Escorts & Massages page
- Press the ‘Services | Offer’ drop-down menu and select ‘Massage’
- Scroll through the list of escorts to find your ideal one
- Click on their ad and contact them via phone or message to book an appointment
Interested in an erotic sex massage? Book one now.
