Meeting a new client can be nerve-wracking, and it’s essential to be aware of your clients and their behaviours.
You want to stay safe and protect yourself from any dangerous or risky situations.
Because we value escorts’ safety, here are 11 red flags to watch out for before and when meeting a new client. Keep these in mind to be prepared and have a safe experience.
The importance of screening clients
Being an escort is a unique and special profession. It can allow you to meet interesting, successful and often high-profile clients.
However, it is also important to remember that not all clients are appropriate for this line of work.
This is why, as an escort, it’s instrumental to always screen your clients carefully before meeting them.
This screening process helps to ensure that you only meet respectful, well-mannered clients who understand the boundaries of this temporary relationship.
It also helps to protect you from any inappropriate or dangerous behaviour. In short, screening clients is an essential part of being an escort and helps to create a safe and enjoyable experience for both parties.
That being said, it can be tricky if you don’t know what to watch out for before meeting future clients. Read on for all the red flags you should know before taking them.
11 client red flags not to ignore
When working in the adult industry, you know that your client list can make or break your business. After all, happy clients lead to referrals, repeat business, and can help you attract even more customers.
On the other hand, difficult clients can cost you time and money and ultimately damage your reputation. For these reasons, it’s important to be on the lookout for red flags that may indicate a client is trouble.
1. The client is constantly changing his mind
As an escort, one of the most important things you can do is trust your gut. One red flag that should always send a warning signal is when a client constantly changes his mind. This could be about anything from what services they want, to how much they’re willing to pay.
It’s an indication that they’re not sure about what they want, which can often lead to them being dissatisfied with the results. In other words, it’s just not worth your time or energy to deal with someone who can’t make up their mind. Trust your instincts and move on to someone who actually knows what they want.
2. Cut the conversation short with nosy customers
You may sometimes be subjected to nosy questions from customers. “How long have you been doing this?”, “Are you single?” or “Do you have many clients?” While we understand that some people are simply curious, we also know these questions can be a red flag for escorts.
Not only are they invasive and personal, but they can also lead to unpleasant situations. If customers know too much about you, they may try to negotiate for additional services or even harass you in extreme scenarios.
For this reason, you will always want to cut the conversation short with nosy customers. Doing so sends the message that their questions are not welcome and that they’re only there for a couple of hours at most.
This may not always be the most diplomatic approach, but it is the best way to protect yourself.
3. The client is excessively demanding or unrealistic in his expectations
Another of the biggest red flags is when a client is excessively demanding or unrealistic in his expectations. This is a clear sign that he is not respecting your boundaries or considering your safety and wellbeing.
In case this happens before the meeting, tell him directly that he should respect your limits. Otherwise, he should find another escort. On the other hand, if the man was calm and reasonable before meeting but becomes demanding when meeting up, and repeatedly attempts to persuade you into trying things you have not advertised like French kissing, it’s essential to trust your instincts and get out of there quickly.
With so many other clients out there, there’s no reason to put up with this kind of behaviour. Stay safe and move on to someone who will appreciate and respect you.
4. Avoid uncommunicative or unresponsive customers
While this point doesn’t initially mean that you’re in danger, it’s something to pay attention to.
When a client doesn’t get back to you, this could be because they’re not actually interested in hiring you, or it could be because they’re trying to hide something. Either way, it’s not worth your time or energy to pursue someone who isn’t bothering to respond to you or answers hours later.
In other words, save yourself the hassle and avoid unresponsive customers altogether; instead, focus on those who really want to meet up and communicate regularly.
5. The same goes for rude or disrespectful clients
Being an escort is a delicate job. You need to be professional at all times while still providing a sensual and personal experience.
That said, you should watch out for specific customers and you shouldn’t waste your time on someone who is rude or disrespectful to you.
These are a major turnoff and can often result in a less than ideal experience. If a customer is rude or doesn’t respect you, it’s best to steer clear. These types of customers often create an uncomfortable or even dangerous situation for you, making you feel uneasy and not comfortable.
6. Clients rushing you to meet or pressuring you to meet at a certain time
It may sound normal at first, but clients who pressure you to meet can sometimes be considered a warning sign.
First of all, this behaviour can indicate someone who is not respectful of your time or trying to rush the encounter.
In addition, if they don’t have enough time to meet when you’re free, it could well be that they don’t have the time to meet at all.
All in all, if a client is rushing you, it is best to politely decline and find someone who is more interested in taking their time.
Remember, by taking the time to vet potential clients; you can help ensure that you only spend your time with those who respect your boundaries and appreciate your company.
7. A clingy or demanding man can be terrible for your business
For some women, there’s nothing worse than a clingy, demanding man – especially when he’s paying for your time.
As an independent escort, not only do they want your undivided attention, but they also expect you to cater to their every whim and fancy.
It’s exhausting, both physically and emotionally, it’s often not worth the money, and it’s much better to stick with men who know how to treat a lady.
8. Persistent clients
Unfortunately, one downside of being an escort is dealing with persistent men who won’t take no for an answer. While some men can be respectful and understanding, others will try to haggle or even force their way into your services.
Not only is this extremely frustrating, but it can also be bad for business. First, it takes up valuable time that you could spend with other clients. Secondly, it might make you feel unsafe and uncomfortable.
In short, persistent men can be terrible for your business and should not be welcome in your world.
9. Clients that want to become “regular”
Becoming a “regular” usually means you get some kind of benefit for your loyalty. When it comes to independent sex work, however, regulars can be a big no. Often, clients who want to become regulars are simply looking for a discount; they want to pay less for the same service.
While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to save money, this type of arrangement is not sustainable for most escorts.
If a client hints that they want to become a regular, but only if they receive a discount, it’s best to politely decline as it may hurt your business in the long run.
10. Those who want to take you out
Regardless of if you’re an experienced escort or new in the business, chances are you’ve had a client or two that tried to take you out on a date. While it might seem like a harmless request, it’s actually a huge warning sign.
First of all, it’s unprofessional. Your clients are paying for your time and companionship, not for your romantic attention. Secondly, it can be dangerous. Spending time with a client outside of an established setting could put you at risk.
Finally, it’s a potential waste of time. You could be using that time to meet other clients or enjoy your personal life. If you’re ever tempted to say yes to a date, think twice and consider the pros and cons.
11. Time wasters
If you’re an escort, chances are you’ve come across your fair share of time wasters. You know the type – they contact you and make all sorts of promises, but when setting up a meeting, they go radio silent.
Or, they show up to your appointment and then barely say a word. In either case, it’s best just to move on.
There’s no point in wasting your time on someone who isn’t actually interested. After all, communication is critical in any relationship – even a sexual one.
Conclusion
While it is essential to be aware of the red flags and that your safety always comes first, it is also crucial that you don’t let them scare you away from working with clients altogether. Just use your best judgement and if something feels off before meeting, trust your gut.
Last but certainly not least, make sure to check out platforms such as ClientEye and NUM, which are made for sex workers to warn others of potentially dangerous clients.
In conclusion, these are all the signs you shouldn’t avoid.
Did any of those happen to you? How did you react, and what was the result? Let us know in the comment section below.
