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Do women ever hire male escorts? The truth about straight male escorts

According to the International Union of Sex Workers, there are 52 million sex workers in the world. 41.6 million of these are female, and 10.4 million are male. The big difference between female and male escorts probably won’t surprise anyone, but do you know why?

Today, we’re exploring the world of straight male escorts and looking at why women hire them. You’ll find everything you need to know, from the top reasons that drive ladies to book escort sessions to couples bookings.

Start scrolling now to discover more.

Do male escorts exist?

When you picture an escort, what image comes to mind? It’s likely a woman, not a straight man.

Since the concept of escorts is often linked to women, many forget that male escorts exist. But this is far from the truth, as there are plenty of escorts who identify as men in the industry. Some offer services to other men, some to women, and some for both. It’s up to the individual escort, after all!

There are indeed fewer straight male escorts than female escorts or gay male escorts. This is primarily due to a lack of demand. Ladies are less likely to look for escorts — but that doesn’t mean there’s no market for them. We’ll explain this in more detail below.

Read our exclusive Q&A with a male escort here.

Do straight women ever hire escorts?

Yes, many ladies hire escorts, even if there are fewer female clients than their male counterparts.

Before we explain why there’s less demand for women, we quickly want to stress that many women hire escorts, and there’s no shame in doing so.

The gap between male and female demand for escorts comes down to stigma. Men seeing escorts is more normalised than women seeing them. You can also see this pattern when it comes to watching porn. For example, when women talk about watching porn, many think it’s uncouth or odd. At the same time, men are almost encouraged to embrace their sexuality with porn.

It’s vital to note that these attitudes are slowly changing. More women are talking about their experiences with male escorts, and likewise, there’s more porn for women than ever before.

We want to keep this momentum going. Keep reading to discover more about straight male escorts and why women may want to book a few sessions.

Why do women hire male escorts

There are endless reasons women might want to hire an escort, many of which mirror the reasons men hire escorts. Let’s look at the most common reasons, as reported by real male escorts:

  • Virginity and first sexual experiences — Some male escorts report that they see women with little to no sexual experience, as they want their first sexual interactions to be positive ones. Escorts are professionals and provide safe and uncomplicated sexual services. This can take the pressure off a first-time experience while also helping the ladies understand more about their sexuality. Remember, for many women, first-time sex can be underwhelming. So, a pro can help you guarantee a satisfying debut.
  • Sexual abuse recovery — Having sex after sexual abuse can be a difficult issue. So, some women decide to work with escorts as these professionals provide a non-threatening setting for having sex again. With escorts, you tend to have more control over the situation, and there aren’t any emotions to deal with either. Of course, it’s essential to work through sexual abuse with a sex therapist or counsellor, too.
  • Relationship difficulties — From divorces to dead bedrooms, male escorts also see women who are experiencing relationship difficulties. Escorts can provide sexual release for these women while also offering comfort and improving their self-confidence.
  • Experience and confidence — An escort can help women build up their sexual experience and confidence in the bedroom. They can also help to improve their body confidence, as many escorts report seeing women who are ashamed of their bodies (and have no reason to be!)
  • For pleasure — Lastly, male escorts also see multitudes of women who simply want to enjoy sex. While it’s valid to see an escort for a specific reason, the large majority of female clients also just want to have a positive sexual encounter without the fuss of dating, starting a serious relationship, or relying on masturbation.

Do couples book male escorts?

If a heterosexual couple is interested in a threesome, there’s one big question that needs to be answered: should the third person be male or female?

Gender is more complex than male or female. So, we’re talking in terms of biological sex for this question!

While most couples tend to hire a female escort, there are plenty who go the other way and book a male escort. Watching another man have sex with your wife can be very arousing — and not just in the cuckold sense.

Stag and vixen couples are another relationship dynamic that involves extramarital sex. Unlike cuckolds who get off on the humiliation and don’t join in, stag and vixen couples play together and don’t feel humiliated when adding an extra person to the dynamic.

So, yes, it’s very normal for heterosexual couples to book male escorts. Many male escorts report enjoying these bookings, as these open-minded couples know what they want and are confident to say it.

What services do male escorts offer

The answer isn’t only sex. With rates starting around £150 per hour to £1,200 per night, male escorts offer much more than a quick romp.

Some provide date nights, where they wine and dine with a client before returning to a hotel room. Others simply provide sex without any emotional work or getting to know each other. Many male escorts have long-term relationships with clients that combine emotional labour and sexual services.

In some cases, escorts help ladies tick things off their sexual bucket lists, such as tantric sex or raunchy public sex. It’s all down to the escort and the client’s boundaries.

There are also male escorts who provide non-sexual services. Websites like Gentlemen4Hire prove that the non-sexual escort industry is thriving.

The takeaway

Though a straight male escort isn’t the first image that appears when you think of a sex worker, they’re real and frequently booked by ladies worldwide. Sex work is more diverse than you think! Keep this in mind when you need a companion for your next big event.

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