Are you part of the BDSM world? Or are you looking to incorporate a little kink into your bedroom activities?
A BDSM survey conducted by sex-brand LELO revealed that over 80% of participants have tried spanking and being tied up, over 40% being whipped, and over 30% being gagged.
According to certified sex expert and sexologist Gigi Engle, “kink is super accessible to everyone—and a lot of us have either tried it or wanted to.”
No matter what acronym of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism), appeals to you most, be sure there’s a sex toy out there waiting to fuel your erotic fantasies and ginger up this power-play fun.
From BDSM beginners to couples who just like to dabble in the occasional BDSM bedroom antics, here are our top 10 sexiest and affordable BDSM toys for you and your partner to try.
1. Bondage Flogger
Best for: Feeling pleasure and pain at once.
Do you or your partner like to be spanked or punished? Dish out some discipline with a beginner-friendly BDSM flogger, generally designed with a plastic handle and wrist-loop for sheer control. Floggers are a type of whip, which are designed to instill thrilling fear and inflict pleasurable pain on the sub lover. You can lash out on the ground to intimidate them or tease them with soft strokes or a sharp and satisfying sting.
Where to buy: Lovehoney for £12.99
2. Satin Blindfold
Best for: Getting turned on by sensory deprivation.
Whether it’s for roleplay, stimulating a fetish, or sensory deprivation, a silky satin-feel blindfold can add a new dimension to BDSM sex. They offer a comfortable and snug fit to stop any sneak peeks, and its soft lining means it can be worn for as long as your session goes. It’s effective for setting your senses alight and purely focusing on the sex scene itself while helping the wearer let go of inhibitions to let loose. Not to mention, it’s great for a good night’s sleep too.
Where to buy: Lovehoney for £5.99
3. Mouth Ball Gag
Best for: Wanting to simply feel the pleasure in silence.
If you enjoy being submissive during sex, a large silicone mouth gag is great for those looking for full mouth restriction. Many of them are hypoallergenic, odourless and tasteless for comfort during wear and features several holes to ensure easy breathing – but still renders you speechless. Great for being turned on by feeling punished and helpless while enjoying the thrill of increased anxiety levels. For the dominant lovers, you’ll love watching them drool and hearing the sounds they make when they try to speak or reach an orgasm.
Note: It’s important to devise a clear ‘safe signal’, which can be acted out for safety purposes
Where to buy: Lovehoney for £24.99
4. Spreader Bar
Best for: Extreme kinky sex positions.
While playing bondage, you can explore a range of kinky sex positions with a versatIle spreader bar. Restraints are often softly padded and velcro-fastened for your comfort and safety, and some even feature two pairs of built-in restraints – one pair at the end of each bar and the other in the middle. Designed to spread your sub out, you can use this for oral sex, deeper penetration, and G-spot stimulation. Just let your imagination run wild.
Where to buy: Adam & Eve for £30.60
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5. Nipple Clamps
Best for: Men and women that love nipple play.
Saucy and stylish, nipple clamps are guaranteed to drive these erogenous zones up the wall. They keep your nipples hard and sensitive and can give some pleasurable torture for those that like to be punished. Want to go a little harder? Opt for a fully adjustable pair, so you can choose your desired pressure, and there’s nothing stopping you from hanging items on the chain for a more intense sensation.
Where to buy: Ann Summers for £12
6. Bondage Rope
Best for: Practicing the art of shibari or restraint with your lover.
Enjoy restricting, wrapping, suspending, and binding up your partner with some strong, sexy and silky bondage rope. A silky finish provides a smooth-feel against the skin for comfort and erotic arousal. You can be as creative as you like, as it permits beautiful artistic designs and full-body bondage for an erotic aesthetic and sensual entanglement. The more practice you get, the quicker you’ll become a shibari pro.
Where to buy: Simply Pleasure for £11.45
7. Collar And Lead
Best for: BDSM lovers who enjoy an erotic choking experience.
Fetish meets fashion with a luxurious kinky collar and lead. Dominatrixes and submissives alike can get turned on by consensual sex-slave roleplay, as they enjoy the swinging and pulling sounds of a super-polished and often detachable chain. Collars are comfy and usually have an adjustable buckle fastening to tighten the grip a little for increased pleasure. Get ready to show them who’s boss or prepare to submit to your lover’s desires.
Where to buy: Ann Summers for £18
8. Under Bed Restraint
Best for: A more intense bondage experience.
Want to dominate your partner – sexually? Transform your bed into a sex den with a sturdy bed restraint. There’s one available for almost any bed size and cuffs are fully adjustable for a comfortable fit. Doms can enjoy leaving their sub lover pleasurably vulnerable and helpless in their power. From anal sex to an erotic massage, the possibilities are endless. Strap them down and have free rein (with consent).
Where to buy: Lovehoney for £34.99
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9. Feather Teaser
Best for: Couples that enjoy slow and sensual foreplay.
If you love a little foreplay before BDSM sex, then a feather teaser will have you feeling tingly all-over. Available in various sensual shades, they boast luxuriously-soft feathers for exploring the most sensitive areas and a lightweight handle that’s easy to manage. Tease and caress your lover’s skin with some sensation play and you’re bound to get an erotic response.
Where to buy: LELO for £24.90
10. Fifty Days of Play
Best for: Competitive couples that are eager to win.
Do you get excited by sex games? While there’s lots of BDSM games on the market, you’ll love this Fifty Days of Play packed with stimulating scenarios, romantic gestures and erotic surprises. It contains one dice and fifty envelopes that will decide which out of the five shades of naughtiness you will be enjoying, from Virginal White through to Seductive Black. If you enjoy switching roles during BDSM play, this game will have you from dominant to submissive in no time. Whether you want to play at home or take it on a romantic weekend away, it’s a BDSM game you’ll never want to stop playing.
Where to buy: Amazon for £11.99
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BDSM Safety
Before using any BDSM sex toys, it is important that you read the instructions carefully and research on how to perform sexual acts with them safely.
Gigi urges to “go to workshops, consult professional BDSM practitioners, and do your research.”
The best practices for BDSM safety are to always:
- Establish consent
- Establish boundaries
- Recognise the risks
- Use a safe word or signal (especially if using mouth gags or sex toys that obstruct speech)
- Play sober and not under the influence of alcohol or drugs
- Communicate openly and honestly
- Know how to use your sex toys or tools properly
- Prepare for any emergencies (e.g., have a phone nearby)
- Never leave a bound person unattended
Read more information on BDSM safety.
Remember, all toys should be thoroughly cleaned before and after use for hygienic and safety reasons.
Disclaimer: Due to the current social-distancing measures, should you decide to participate in any sexual activity of any kind it should be with a person who you have been self-isolating or social distancing with. All parties involved should also have adhered to Government social-distancing guidelines.
