Baby talk might make your stomach churn, but studies have shown that nearly two-thirds of couples regularly use baby talk. So, why is this?
Today, we’re looking at what baby talk actually means, why couples do it, and whether it has any sexual components. Get ready for a whistle-stop linguistic lesson and a few dating tips.
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What is baby talk?
Baby talk is a style of speaking that humans usually use to communicate with babies. It doesn’t use fully formed sentences or grammar. Instead, you speak at a higher pitch, lengthen the words, and drop some of the harder consonants.
This isn’t an English-language phenomenon, either. It’s present in most cultures as it’s one of the best ways to teach young children and babies how to speak.
Examples of baby talk
Simplified language, nicknames, and an exaggerated tone characterise Baby talk. Here are some examples of names and phrases that count as baby talk:
- ‘Snuggle bear’ or ‘Sweetie pie’
- Exaggerated baby-like questions ‘How was your day my wittle baby bear?’
- Simplifying words, such as ‘wuv you’ rather than ‘love you’ and ‘kissy-wissy’ rather than ‘kiss’
- Using diminutive suffixes to make words seem smaller or cuter, e.g. ‘huggies’ or ‘sleepy-wheepy’
Why do couples do baby talk?
So, how does this apply to relationships?
When you hear couples saying “baby” or “my wittle pwincess”, it’s not because they’ve dedicated to go back to the basics. In relationships, people use baby talk to show affection.
Modern studies also suggest that couples use this basic speech style to express themselves and their love without adult grammar and convention restrictions.
Basically, baby talk is linked to the love we receive as children and frees us from the stuffy restrictions of adult life. This is why most couples reserve their baby talk for private spaces.
Do pet names count as baby talk?
Yes, pet names do count as baby talk. Popular options include ‘sweetie pie’, ‘cupcake’, or ‘honey bun.’
Though they may seem silly, pet names are more than just playful nicknames. They’re a sign that you and your significant other have reached a level of comfort and security where you can freely express your affection.
Is baby talk a kink?
Baby talk isn’t always a kink, but it can be.
For the majority of couples, baby talk is a way to express feelings in a cutesy and affectionate way. It’s not erotic and not used in sex.
However, some people do find baby talk arousing. In these cases, they might use baby talk as part of foreplay or as dirty talk during intercourse.
When baby talk becomes a kink, it’s known as “infantilism”. This is rarer than most fetishes, but not non-existent. It often links to DDLG fetishes, adult babies, or diaper-wearing kinks.
Is baby talk appropriate for the bedroom?
Understandably, some partners worry when they hear their partner is into baby talk and sex. This style of talk is linked to childhood, something that’s not sexual.
However, simply using this affectionate and childlike language during sex is nothing to worry about. More people than you’d expect to find baby talk attractive.
As always, kinks differ from person to person. As long as the play occurs between two consenting adults with consent and open communication, it’s nothing to worry about.
What if your partner wants to use baby talk in the bedroom
If your partner has expressed their desire to experiment with baby talk in the bedroom, you might not know where to start.
Firstly, you need to decide whether you’re open to the idea or not. It’s totally up to you, and it’s not a problem if it doesn’t float your boat. Make sure you assert your boundaries without shaming your partner, as it’s normal to have different sexual interests.
If you are interested in trying baby talk, let your partner know before you do. Before trying anything new, you should always discuss your desires, expectations, and boundaries. This way, you can stay safe and have a more fulfilling experience.
Going slow is always the best way to try a new kink. For example, you might want to try out a few phrases during foreplay and then, when you feel comfortable, start using them during sex.
Remember, if you suddenly aren’t into baby talk or want to go slow, you can always say no and stop – even if you initially said yes.
How baby talk can benefit your relationship
Baby talk can be beneficial for plenty of reasons. Whether you use it in bed or not, there are numerous reasons couples love it. Here are some of the main ones:
- It brings you closer together as it’s more vulnerable than talking normally
- It’s a new way to show affection to each other
- It shows your relationship has reached a secure and positive place
- Baby talk can take the pressure off serious situations and provide comfort to your partner
- Baby talk can also heighten emotional bonds in your relationship
Don’t force baby talk if it doesn’t come naturally
Ultimately, baby talk is something that naturally happens in relationships. Don’t force yourself to use it if it makes you feel uncomfortable or isn’t interesting to you.
Partners that try to force themselves into baby talk run the risk of becoming frustrated. It’s okay if this isn’t for you. You can show your affection to your partner in other ways.
Learning your partner’s love language is a great way to ensure they get the affection they deserve. Likewise, you can learn your love language and work out what makes you feel appreciated.
The takeaway
Baby talk can be a divisive topic, as it’s not everyone’s thing. However, more couples have tried it than not, so it’s worth talking about. Always discuss boundaries and consent before going ahead, especially if you want to use baby talk in a more intimate setting.
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