Of all the jobs in the world, escorting is surrounded by more mystery than most. Most people don’t understand the day-to-day life of a sex worker, and many are too afraid to ask because of the stigma. But this doesn’t stop them from being curious!
If you’re secretly intrigued by the life of an escort, you’re in the right place.
We’ve gathered the top questions most people are too embarrassed to ask. Scroll down to read answers from real escorts and boost your understanding of the sex work world.
1. Do you change costs for different customers?
A surprisingly common question is whether escorts vary their rates depending on the customer. This is a difficult question, as rates really come down to the individual escort.
However, there are some common themes. For example, most escorts charge per hour or sex act. These usually stay the same for all customers unless the client has extra requests or it’s a busy period (where rates go up due to less availability).
Of course, escorts can charge more if they like the client less. They’re in charge of their prices. This is a very rare phenomenon, though. Most escorts are very professional and keep rates the same for all clients.
2. Do you pay your taxes?
Yes, all escorts pay taxes. Well, almost.
A small subset of cash-in-hand escorts manage to dodge taxes. However, the majority of escorts file and pay taxes like any other business owner.
In the UK, sex workers must register as self-employed once they start earning over the initial trading allowance amount. This is a very easy process, and once completed, all escorts and sex workers must declare their income and expenses every tax year.
3. How do you protect yourself against harmful punters?
Let’s address the elephant in the room — escorting isn’t always the safest job. From verbal harassment to physical abuse, escorts face more danger at work than the average office worker.
Many wonder how escorts actually protect themselves from these unpleasant risks, and we spoke to a few escorts to get the lowdown on safety. These are the top ways escorts keep themselves safe:
- Background checks before meeting
- Personal safety items (e.g. alarms and safety keychains)
- Fake names and addresses
- Secured computers and phones
- Sharing their location with friends and family
Some escorts also bring a friend or ‘bodyguard’ along to sessions. This isn’t as common as you’d think, though.
4. Do you ever just go for dinner with clients?
Yes! Plenty of escorts do non-sexual sessions, such as dinner or drinks with a client. You’d be surprised how common these types of bookings are.
Sometimes, clients simply want some company or to treat someone to an evening out. Others may want to talk through emotional issues or are looking for physical comfort (hugs or non-sexual touches).
Most escorts don’t advertise these types of services. But most are open to them if you ask them politely and still pay their rates.
Don’t be fooled. Non-sexual bookings are still bookings. They’re not free!
5. Do you work while on your period?
Menstrual cycles are natural, but clients do not expect them when booking an escorting session. So, how do the professionals deal with this?
Most escorts take the time off every month and use it as time to catch up with the admin. Others limit their services. For example, they’ll provide blowjobs and handjobs but no penetrative sex.
Some escorts work during their period, using a sponge to stop the bleeding. Unlike tampons, you can have sex with a sponge. Clients rarely even notice!
Period sex is a very uncommon demand. However, if escorts have clients interested in it, they’ll schedule them during this week – if they’re comfortable with providing this service.
6. How does an escort’s workday look?
Curious about what escorts do all day? You’re not the only one. But this is another question that has a multitude of answers!
Plenty of escorts fit their bookings into a nine-to-five schedule and live a normal life around these working hours. But due to the nature of the work, evenings and weekends are the most popular booking times. So, most escorts work on the weekend and evenings and enjoy the traditional workday as their time off.
Realistically, it also depends on where they’re meeting clients. If it’s an outcall, they’ll also have to factor in travel and finding the meeting space. If a client comes to their ‘home’ (most escorts use a hotel or rented space for incalls), the travel time is cut, and they can see more clients in a day.
They may dedicate time to side hustles, too. Some may also run OnlyFans accounts or work in the pornography industry.
7. Do escorts have romantic partners?
Yes. Escorts do have romantic relationships outside of their work life. However, they likely won’t tell you about them!
This isn’t because their work is a secret. It’s more because they want to keep their personal life private. You wouldn’t expect a therapist to reveal their home address and marriage status. So, why demand the information from a sex worker?
Professional escorts won’t pursue relationships with clients due to the power imbalance. Plus, there’s money involved. Don’t expect your provider to quit their career and run away with you – remember that this is their career. Even if you think they have feelings for you, it’s best to be respectful and not ask for special treatment.
You should also avoid pestering your escort about their personal relationships. This kind of behaviour can get you blacklisted from future sessions. Respect their boundaries and focus on the fun you’re having together.
The takeaway
Did this article satisfy your curiosity? Or are you left with more questions than before? No matter your answer, you can keep reading about modern-day sex work on the Vivastreet blog.
Learn more about life as an escort and sex work-related topics here.
