Mark July 21st in your calendar. It’s a date you don’t want to forget!
Wondering why? The 21st of July is International Handjob Day, and yes, that’s a real thing. The day is dedicated to celebrating the pleasure of the popular sex act, spreading sensual tips and trips, and making light-hearted quips.
Whether you’re curious about updating your handy technique or want to learn how to take your handjobs to the next level with dedicated toys, we’re here to help. This article contains answers to all of the handjob questions you’ve been too shy to ask.
So, let’s jump straight in!
What is a handjob?
Not quite sure what handjob means? We’ve got you.
A handjob is a sexual act where you use your hand to stimulate or masturbate your partner’s penis. Testicle and perineum (taint) touching also fall under this activity.
Handjobs typically come before penetrative sex as part of foreplay. But you don’t have to follow this order. Touching the penis in between positions is a great way to switch up the pace.
Also, a handjob alone is an exciting way to vary your sex life and to prioritise the pleasure of your penis-owning partner. Don’t sleep on this sexual favour!
How to give the perfect handjob
We’ll start off with the most important info – how to give a great handjob. Don’t worry if you’re unsure about your technique. Handjobs don’t always come naturally, especially if you don’t have a penis yourself!
Like most sex acts, there’s no right or wrong way to give a handjob. Everyone has different tastes and bodies. However, there are some basic steps to note.
Here’s how to give a perfect handjob:
- Gently move your hand up and down your partner’s penis – Don’t start too fast. Allow the tension to build up slowly
- Take the shaft of the penis into your hand and start firmly stroking it – Keep a firm grip but don’t squeeze it too hard. Ask your partner how it feels and follow their directions
- Alternate between stroking and gently fondling the penis – You can also caress the testicles or perineum if this is something they enjoy
- Focus on the head of the penis – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive and can be a centre of pleasure for many people
- Continue massaging and stroking the penis – Communicate with your partner about how it feels. Settle into a steady rhythm and slowly increase the pace. You can keep going until they orgasm or follow what feels good and transition into other sexual acts and positions
Experiment with the guide above and take note of what feels best to heighten the experience.
Honest communication and boundaries are critical for handjobs. You’ll always give a more satisfying handjob when you know what feels good! Consider discussing expectations beforehand or continue checking in with them during the play.
As always, it’s vital to get consent beforehand. Both partners need to be enthusiastic before you have some fun.
Got the basics? Keep reading to see how you can take your handjobs to the next level.
Extra handjob tips to spice it up
Classic handjobs can be a sexy addition to any intimate moment. But you don’t have to stick to the traditional hands-only format. Below are some extra tips to increase the pleasure and your experience:
Lube
Unfortunately, there’s a misconception that lube is only for specific sex acts. Yet this couldn’t be any further from the truth. A few drops of lube can take the pleasure of a handjob from good to eye-rolling-toe-scrunchingly amazing.
Lube makes it easier to pump the penis and find an arousing rhythm. You can even add some flavoured lube if you want to turn the experience into a tasty half-handjob half-blowjob.
Mix up the speed
Switching from tantalising slow touches to rapid strokes is a surefire way to turn your partner on. Avoid repeating one movement or rhythm for the whole session unless they ask for this.
Temperature play
Temperature play is all about awakening your senses. Examples of this include using ice cubes in the handjob to rouse tingly feelings. This isn’t for everyone, but it can be a major turn-on for those interested.
Practice
Practice makes perfect when it comes to most things in life, and handjobs are no exception. Be patient and work with your partner to discover what feels good. The more you practise, the better your skills will become
Want to practise without your partner? A dildo can be helpful if you want to get familiar with the feel of a penis.
Add toys
Toys aren’t just for penetration. Vibrations also feel great on penises. But more on this topic in the section below.
Innovative handjob sex toys from the pleasure aisle
If you haven’t tried using a sex toy during a handjob, this is your sign to try.
Vibrations feel great on penises, but since they’re usually designed for clitoral and vaginal stimulation, few people make the connection between them.
Simply running a bullet vibrator up and down the shaft and around the taint and testicles introduces new sensations and can lead to stronger orgasms. Larger vibrators can be more difficult to manoeuvre, so using smaller models is best.
Male masturbator sex toys are another extremely thrilling option. From vibrating sleeves to toys that simulate blowjobs, there’s a whole world of fun waiting out there.
You can add a male stroker to your hand job by alternating between the toy and your hand. You can also place the penis inside the toy while you fondle your partner’s testicles and taint. The options are endless.
Another way you can combine handjob fun and sex toys is with a butt plug. Plugs and penis stimulation come together and create a seriously sexy feeling. Nothing beats the double-stimulation tingles!
As with any sexual experimentation, always go slowly and continue checking in with your partner. Ensure you’re both on the same page before bringing any toys into the bedroom.
You can find some of the best toys to give the perfect handjob here.
The takeaway
Hopefully, this guide has inspired you to be more hands-on in the bedroom. Will you try out any of these tips? Or are you already a pro?
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