There are plenty of reasons punters choose to see escorts. From wanting to try a new kink to exploring your sexual identity, most reasons that spring to mind are sexual. But what happens when you want to see a sex worker for a non-intimate session?
According to our latest study, more and more clients are looking for companionship rather than sex services and this Loneliness Awareness Week, we’re discussing whether you should contact an escort for non-sexual services. This topic splits opinion within the community and ultimately comes down to the individual provider’s decision. However, understanding the best ways to ask and common queries will help you find a match for your needs.
Keep reading to see the top FAQs about the topic and how to ask a sex worker about your desires.
Do escorts cater to emotional needs?
Yes, there are plenty of escorts who provide emotional and non-intimate services.
When we talk about emotional needs, we’re referring to non-sexual cuddling, chatting, or relaxing together.
Since these demands aren’t as common as sexual requests, most escorts don’t advertise these options. However, if you ask, most escorts are more than happy to help.
Can you combine emotional and sexual needs?
An intimate session will often have moments where you chat and naturally break the ice. So, yes, you can combine emotional and sexual services.
However, it’s critical to remember that escorts are running businesses. They provide intimate and emotional services, but once the session is over, they clock out of their work persona.
If you feel yourself falling for them, it’s important to address these feelings and not expect the provider to reciprocate them.
This format works for many people, especially those with busy jobs who can’t commit to a romantic relationship. But it’s not for everyone – and you should reflect on how attached you feel and whether the relationship has a positive or negative impact on your life.
Are non-sexual sessions cheaper?
The price of a non-sexual escort session depends on the provider’s individual rates.
Like any type of service, the escort sets the price. Most follow standard industry price trends, but no rule says they have to make non-sexual bookings cheaper.
Don’t haggle or push escorts on their fees. You wouldn’t berate your plumber if their costs were higher than you’d expect, so don’t do it to sex workers!
The best way to gauge the going rate for non-intimate services is to ask a few escorts for a quote. Alternatively, you can look at websites and social media listings, but since this niche isn’t so popular, you might not get an accurate representation of costs.
Why do clients seek non-sexual services?
Alongside food, water, sleep, and shelter, adult humans need emotional and physical company to thrive.
Emotional and physical connections help us release critical hormones, such as oxytocin. These allow us to function properly and improve our well-being.
If you aren’t getting enough connection and feel lonely, it’s natural to seek support through alternative means. This could be through friends online or with professionals like escorts.
Ultimately, the desire for non-sexual services is very similar to the need for sexual intimacy. Loneliness just carries a different type of stigma that we don’t speak about enough.
Is it normal to see an escort for emotional company?
Yes, most escorts have stories about clients booking sessions to spend time talking or cuddling rather than having sex. Connecting with escorts for non-sexual company is much more common than most people expect.
In fact, a sex worker once even reported that a client asked them to visit them at the hospital after surgeries for comfort.
However, most non-sexual escort sessions involve dinner dates, watching a movie at home, or simply chatting in a hotel bar. It’s up to what you and your provider are most comfortable with.
How to tell an escort you only want company
Since most escorts focus on sexual services, sending them a message about hanging out without sex might lead them to ignore you.
This isn’t because you’ve been rude. It’s simply because some punters try to get free attention or ‘dates’ without paying the full fees. You need to separate yourself from the time wasters.
A great way to show you’re serious is to be straight up about money. Make sure the sex worker knows you’re happy to pay even though the service isn’t sexual.
You also need to make sure you’re clear about what you want to do in the session. For example, if you want to talk about deep emotional problems, let your escort know. Discussing issues takes a lot of emotional labour, and your provider needs to be prepared to help you and protect their own mental health while doing so.
Similarly, if you want to kick back and watch a film or play video games, you should also let your escort know. Most will be happy to do this. However, if the provider has a secret hatred of video games, it gives them a chance to politely decline and save you both from a disappointing experience.
Can escorts help you build social skills?
Like booking an escort to help you lose your virginity, many clients are interested in booking non-intimate sessions to help build social skills.
Escorts can help you practise connecting with others, but you shouldn’t expect them to teach you a complete lesson. This is best left to a therapist or medical professional.
Instead, you can look at non-intimate sessions with an escort as a chance to practise your skills in a non-judgmental landscape.
Benefits of a non-sexual escort session
Overall, booking sessions with an escort can greatly benefit your day-to-day life. Here are some benefits of non-sexual escort sessions:
- Reduced depression and loneliness
- Developing social skills in a pressure-free environment
- The chance to connect with someone new
- A more open mind
- Better moods and well-being
The takeaway
If you’re curious about non-intimate escorting sessions, it might be a sign that you could book a session for some non-judgemental company in the future. Hopefully, this blog has answered some questions and pointed you in the right direction.
If an escort says no, always be polite and move on. You will find a provider who aligns with your desires! Just be friendly and honest about your needs.
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